A costly Crush Program......

Last time I checked I was boarding a bus to Mbarara, Uganda....yeah that is a long time like mid September. I had weighed my options, it was either I fly to Entebbe then take a bus to Mbarara, that would mean that I had to not only travel to Nairobi from Nakuru ( 2.5hours) then check into the airport ( 3hours) not to forget the traffic jam in Nairobi ( 2hours) a total of 7.5 hours) flight time about 1 hour and a bus to Entebbe ( 5 hours) waiting for the bus to get full ( 2hours perhaps) With all the above I would have spent about 12.5 hours which is equivalent to me taking a bus from Nakuru and directly heading to Mbarara, plus anyway I was tired of flying. Honestly I was tired. Well, I went to Mbarara on a Wednesday night arriving Thursday morning, straight into a training and same day back to Kampala to prepare for another training in Busia the following day. Let me just say that, the Kampala evening was the best out of the 2 night I spent traveling to and from Uganda, this is another blog by itself! I must say I felt like Superwoman that weekend.....only for disaster to strike while I arrived home ( Kenya)

Well, I had a bad feelings when I arrived in Nakuru that Saturday at the wee hours of the morning, some would call it Friday night. I somehow took my time waiting for a cab at the station, which was not normal for me. On normal accounts, a cab would be waiting for me. Well, a colleague was to pick me up but I cancelled last minute knowing the time I would be arriving hence did not want to inconvenience him. Where was I, yes the bad feeling. I arrived home, and a sudden sort of fear engulfed me, nothing of the sort has happened to me in a very long time...since I cant remember when. Somehow, I went straight to my kitchen and voila! My kitchen door was open. At  some point I tried to figure out if I had left it like so but noooo....I slowly walked towards it...what struck me was the broken glasses on the floor, and instantly I knew I had been robbed! A burglary, seriously, on 3rd floor? Back door? On quickly glancing around what I noticed was just my gas cylinder missing! Well at that point I didnt think it important to worry about my stomach. then I saw footprints that were still went. I quickly called the watchman, yes tat place has a watchman.....just wondering!I had to ask him to ask check all my rooms just to ensure the thug whoever it was, was not still in my house....Inspection inspection inspection! Laptop one missing, laptop two missing,.....camera gone...new pair of shoes gone...plus the gas cylinder!! Everything else intact...oh plus my hard disk drive!! Argh! The last one is what just "finished me" yes I say finished me, because it carried all my data! All my data and 4 years work plus all the memories of places I have been too ( pictures I mean).....It was devastating....I didnt know whether to cry or cry....I just went blank! I couldnt sleep. This is when I wished I had just spent the weekend in Kampala and came back and shortlived my house so that I could wish it to all go away!

I thought I was in a bad dream...no nightmare and that when I sleep and wake up I would go to my laptop bags and at least get my HDD!!!

Well it didnt just happen! I had to live with that nightmare for the next 4 weeks, bad dreams of someone coming back for the rest of my house stuff...consider I wasnt even in that house for the next 4 weeks, because of why...( know its bad Kenyan English, you dont have to tell me), you guessed right, I took another business trip to the land of Kabila then to I had to kiss Sata before coming back...One thing remained engraved in my mind, I seem to look at all those guys who were around me in Nakuru as thugs...imagine even my "friends"....can you blame a girl.... Police officers did not make it easier as they did not even recover the stolen property as usual, I had to even offer them transport to come examine the crime scene ( like really???) I PAY TAX!!!!! Yenyewe, that was just tops!

Costly, I must say....I had to invite one of cousins to stay in my house, had to feed her, had to try and even get some electrician put some electric sort of fence at my back, which by the way, never worked! I had to keep calling all the time to find out if the doors were locked...its was a crazy period I must say...

One thing remained, as much as I had nightmare, there is always a good ending to a bad dream....that I will tell you tomorrow and am living it now...has other dramas...but well, I must say I am coping well...trying to re-build from where I lost...building something bigger and better.......

The little great things....

I have many a time mentioned in my hang out circles that most of things in life never come easy...no they do not,you have to work hard and I mean extra hard. The last two weeks have been more like a trying time for me and full of adventure too. From being told that showering is a way to reduce weight as the skin sheds off. Wherever that came from ( as I have never had of that) to being offered a job in some foreign weird place to getting my acceptance letter for my M Sc. which all made one confused person not knowing what to take and what to rejected. Anyway I must say I have respect for those guys who do not shower, reason, they have 1001 ways of avoiding water. This is one of the latest adventure stories I have heard!!! Read the below carefully and tell me why even you shouldnt join this band wagon (lolest): 1. Showering causes weight loss why, a layer of your body ( read dirt) is shed of hence causing the weight loss. Now how does this happen. I was with the notion that unless it was hot boiling water one is using so that all the fat could have melted upon one emersing him/ herself in the hot water then the slimming session would begin but again wouldnt one be burnt during such an exercise? 2. Big people dont shower as much as they cannot reach all their body parts hence the uneven growth of some areas??? Seriously, like okay am not even sure what to say about this one...really this guy is from Mars 3. That why do we see a lot of stuff when showering ( dark stuff- read a lot of dirt)I only concluded one thing, that either this particular person does not shower and even if they do its after the longest time ever... Trying to argue the above out proved to be futile so I had to end that conversation trying to explain that I shower twice a day and I have never grown thin...and I was told that is why I dont seem to add weight??? That is the best nonsense I had heard in the longest time. Then came the job offer, this was something that even I was tempted and I mean really tempted to just take up. Packing my bags would have been easy I must say but wait, do you just wake up one day and pack your bags to a foreign country just because you have been offered a very attractive package? As a young person I would say, yes I would but as a mother I would think twice....perhaps eve thrice. Two things were happening at the same time...having this great opportunity but at the same time having an even more greater opportunity to further my career though at my normal rate here in Kenya. Furthering it by having an international exposure, yes I have been offered to present as a Key note address speaker at an international conference... I sit in various committees and of late more offers are coming up..This is a trying time and I had never in my life prayed to God to relieve me of some of the duties by not letting me turn them down but have the offerers let me know that perhaps I should wait a little longer. Well I must say prayers are a great things, for those who havent started praying for anything yet, please pray and act as you do...so far I must say all in course and am not going to travel anyway as I am here to stay and further myself locally. I know a time will come when I will have to accept or turn down the offers myself...and I cant wait for that time...for now I have been asked to wait...as I prepare myself more to accept these opportunities in the near future...just not sure how near near is...but am sure God knows best!! It has been a true marathon for me...and above all I thank God... I still know I have the scriptures to write...yes the scriptures that I talked about last time...the book that my so called followers seem to have a better idea that I read from..perhaps next time I will write about these...as I unveil another blog of my high school love letters!!!

Flowers and proposals? Hmmmm....

The past 3 weeks have been interesting ones..... I term them as interesting as it saw me receiving a bonquet of flowers for the first time ever of rare flowers. Not the usual suspects and they were beautiful. i absolutely loved them. The other thing was the number of proposals I received that ranged from I want to sleep with you to I just want to marry you...of course I did not take them seriously as usual since these are people you meet just once and they have given you a history of themselves, where they are at and what they want to do with you. I am not saying that it is a bad thing no...on the other hand I believe its a good thing...no actually a great thing since I get to hear the opinions of people that I never thought I never dreamt of listening to or even interaction with....And more or so, the beauty of hearing someone speaking their mind and heart out. I have been told many a time that I have a script I read from, not sure why and even which one, but perhaps due to the fact that I can clearly handle the other species well when am interacting with them. Of late, I have had too much of that experience. Too much that I am thinking that it would be a great idea to write a play in the name of How to Make a business partner with no strings attached!!!- In a man's world, things are normally regarded as okay when a female species responds and agrees to everything that a male species tends to put on the table. In my world, I have learnt to take the things that are put on my table and turn them to either favor me and/or the other party without necessariry hurting anyone in the business circles. Hate or love it being a woman in an influential position has its own repercussions which sometimes are not really the best considering that some in these position are well respectable people. Sometimes you may wonder how you can clearly draw the line between business and pleasure? That line it thin I can tell you....why I am telling you all these? Is it that I have fallen prey and at times decided to have more pleasure than the business itself? Is it that sometimes I get annoyed and walk out of any potential and would be predator ( business partner) and hence jeopardizing the business environment created for and by the company for this client? Well a lot maybe said and done but hello? Wake up in my world, its a balancing act, so far its been well...hence the script bit...I hear that a lot. At times getting challenged by well positioned people to either hang out with them or loose the deal. By hanging out I dont just mean going out but to the extent of sleeping with them. Ask me why I have a heart of stone sometimes, caring less about what people feel...and I would tell you its the above experience that has turned me to be so. I however to not take it home...I leave it at the doorstep of my office and when I get home...I am a mother, a great mother for that matter...strict though... Next...writing my own scriptures?

Interesting developments.....

The past few weeks have been witnessed with lots of drama partly by those I slated for myself and mostly those that others thought were to be addressed by me and only me. Well, I tried and took things as they came and finally I can rest. The part drama included overlapping on a public road, I say public because I am one that follows the traffic rules and always make the most noise when some fool overlaps. I am not indicating that this particular day I was fool, but I want to state by fact that if my foolishness did not tell me to overlap I would have slept on the road. Reason, a truck driver decided that its time the truck did some summersalting forgeting that this is a public road and if by chance the truck did not land one its many tires then, automatically it would be a disaster to everybodt else behind him...by the way have I told you this was not the first incidence of an overturned truck this past few weeks? There were quite a number an indication that either we are just careless or I dont know what is happening...anyway back to my overlapping story...So my foolishness asked me to overlap and I thanked God for that foolishness since there was more than a Kilometre of trucks on the roads and why the rush? I had an appointment? But in most cases I normally think, if one overlaps then they would have better woken up early so as not to cause problem for everyone like the rest of the guys are not in a hurry :-( I am not sure I made sense with my last statement but hey, does it matter? I am confused too..... Anyway, all in all, I was able to get to my meeting early, now the most of the drama...work related, need I SAY MORE!! Nope...now that I cant let me sign out, but will have to gather courage to write what went down someday, maybe.....just perhaps!

I decided to share the picture of my son, the one adorable thing that I have in my life...the one thing that keeps me smiling and longing to be a better me, so that I can make it better for him...:-)

A COME BACK?

It has been a while but at times, silence is golden and again...sometimes when one goes quiet it only means that better things are coming up and something serious must be cooking. I decided to take a break and concentrate at the same time refleting on issues of my life, as all of a sudden things were moving too fast for me to handle, I think... Well, last year saw me decide to throw myself back into the a sort of relationship, was on trial, but was all worht it...6 months down the line, I discovered that perhaps we both needed to re-evaluate our priorities...well put, we took a break....okay of course for the better since it seems both of us or perhaps I was too busy managing what i know best rather than the relationship at hand. Needless to say, the distance was not helping much and perhaps we both just gave up easily. Well they say if at all things are meant to be they will be eventually and sometimes its just good to let nature take its course :-) But that was a great 6 months that I had...could not have asked for more. Now 2012 brings itself and yes, this year, intresting stuff is cropping back. Let me call a spade a spade...my baby's dad has re-surface and for what? He wants me back???At this time when I had decided that I want to take the couple agenda of my topic of discussions, when I least expected that I would be going for dates, when I least expected that he would be the person who would be asking me to sit down with him and have a discussion about "our" future? Clearly, I need to be picnhed to wake up or maybe sleep and wake up again!!! I am not sayin that he is not a guy I would listen to but really, after ten good years, he shows up? And why? Because what he had has gone sour and he feels he made a wrong choice and he should have married me a long time ago? Really? I am not bitter but am just asking myself a lot of questions right now....Well at some point I wonder if I decide to do it his way, if he wont wake up one day and say he is bored with me and go back to what he left again...after ten years??? Its these questions that seem to kind of slow me down....making me think twice about the possibility of ever even listening to him. I love my life, with no stress, sometimes sleeping on the couch, sleeping hungry by choice ( coz I dont feel like cooking) and am thinking, would a marriage of convinience really be of benefit to me? And I already know the answer...especially now that I have too much to handle and less time for myself.......

ANTHROPOLOGICAL BEHAVIOURS???

Today I had very interesting encounters that have really made my day. One which I would call a well thought conversation with one of close friends. He had very intelligent ideas as to how the weather patterns have subsequently changed from the regular to irregular patterns to what scientists are calling global warming. I call them intelligent because they got me thinking of it as a possibility of what could be happening to our sudden change of weather patterns. Well, to him its an abnormal behaviour of the weather which is caused by some of the way human being are behaving, let baptise them anthropological behaviour for now. By the way, that title may as well be as permanent since his explanation will get your mind thinking as well.

Long time ago our forefathers had a very simple lifestyle, where women knew their roles and men were so much more responsible. I am not going to tell you how we have such unequal distribution of work or roles to the extent that I want women to be equal to men. Let’s face it, women will never be equal with men…ask me how; I will tell you that in a different forum. Back to the point, now let’s psycho-analyse the era then and now…..well am not criticizing anything trending in fashion right now but let’s try and trace back where the rains started beating us. Women dressed decently and while our parents never saw the era of men trending the sagging style and wearing Mohawks and women wearing unfinished dresses, we are seeing a lot of these in our generation. This generation Y…please note that am from generation X. Apart from the fact that some traditional cultural practises and taboos, it was a curse for a women to reveal anything that was termed as Holy to her surrounding and especially during the day. Take for example, in Europe where the climate….global warming began being noticed….look at the trends…except in the really cold winters…everything is left for nature to evaluate….and that is the reason why you will find that it has been taken normal to not fully dress up while leaving the house and entering a public domain.

Now spin the bottle and set foot in Africa….evaluation is being done for areas where no rain or even signs of rain appear….like where we have recently found oil, the coastline and especially there. You will find that these are areas which are like the Summer holidays in Europe…and don’t take me wrong but let’s assume the weather takes note and automatically notes the sudden changes of dress codes….if the sun sees and notes that human beings are enjoying basking in its glory and that we curse the rain every time its blesses us…is it supposed to hide its face behind the clouds, or smile even more and scorch some of us?

Well, in some Kenyan cultures as mentioned, revealing some of the parts of human body was and is still a taboo, it was a curse…am not sure for what exactly, but in my friends case, it is a curse to the environment and the weather to be precise such that its keeping the rain away.

Now I made two promises to him:
• To try and get opinions from the rest of the team
• To try and get the female species especially to completely dress up and stop scaring the rain away

The above EXCEPT the two promises were not my words, I was just trying to put myself in my friends shoes….but honestly, I cannot make head or tail of his conversation but come to think of it…it might just be true…your views?