Tuesday, December 23, 2014

Diary of a Single Mother: Twisted minds.....

Diary of a Single Mother: Twisted minds.....: This was to be published last year...it might have been one of those days! Well ave been off for quite a while now as I have had a crazy tra...

Thursday, December 18, 2014

Diary of a Single Mother: Will I ever?

Diary of a Single Mother: Will I ever?: Today am down low,I have never sat in front of a computer and done nothing....not even Facebook jazzes me today! I am drained, and awaiting ...

Will I ever?

Today am down low,I have never sat in front of a computer and done nothing....not even Facebook jazzes me today! I am drained, and awaiting a conference call that would otherwise last an hour! I need strength to see myself through the next one and a half hours! Yes its 1530 hours, we check out of office at 1700 hours! How can a minute be that long? It actually feels like an hour! Either I am so drained or something is not right today. I will choose to go with the so drained bit since I know everything is right! Maybe not 100% but its alright. Now, I am contemplating skiving the office! Ok skiving is not when you start packing your bags and leave office when everyone know youre leaving, skiving is skiving, just that! Today I thought and did, I thought of leaving the office, keeping in mind I will be home in time for the hour long conference call...I am still waiting for it, that is why I am idle enough to even type something up!Can you imagine, I am even signing in my email to just check if the caller cancelled or decided otherwise! Yaani, either am too naive or I think that all people are kind enough to request for a reschedule in good time!

Well that aside, I thought of skiving, and when I was thinking, I actually got myself shutting down my laptop, packing my bags and standing up to leave! I cant believe I did that. But honestly, its high time offices gave staff a time out! I can easily work and deliver from home. Maybe not always but well, at least 50% of the time when am not in the least bit required in the office but for my presence! Now when I grow up, and I am my own boss, I will have flexi hours in my company, I will not force staff to come to the office, just for show, and stare at their computers or laptop like I did today! I can tell you for sure, my head was tired, not just my head, but mind! Fatigue of the mind is worse than that of the body, because what it does, you just shut down, you cant eat, you cant talk, you cant listen, you cant concentrate, in short you're a dodo! Yes I said a dodo....a dodo...its significance according to Wikipedia is that one of the best-known extinct animals and its singular appearance led to its use in literature and popular culture as a symbol of an outdated concept or object, as in the expression "dead as a dodo," which has come to mean unquestionably dead or obsolete. Similarly, the phrase "to go the way of the dodo" means to become extinct or obsolete, to fall out of common usage or practice, or to become a thing of the past! I will stick to the first description.

In short, I have a brief message, when your staff are tired, let them go home and be obsolete there not in your office. When someone can even Facebook, give them leave and I mean like make them go on holiday or something...all in all, I close my year tomorrow and I cant wait to go home....and trust me its for holiday, I have no holiday because other deadlines await me! All in all, I will be away from my office and for the first time in six years, I will have an auto-respond message stating that I will be away. I honestly have never had one of those, so am still excited, tired but excited. Apparently am not even sure if the call was cancelled, postponed or ? And one other thing, I will add courtesy to my office...communication has to be well done! Let me rest for a while....a while could be 2-4 hours then awake for other deadlines...for now please stay constructive...if things a thick at the office and you cant think, talk a walk! I did not just say that!

Wednesday, December 17, 2014

This Christmas

Last time I checked I was too busy to even finish my blog...not today, I have all the time, stolen time, yes I decided its time for me to spruce up myself and steal time where I can to at least do what I love doing!

The holidays are here, I am not complaining, this year the big boss has been kind enough to allow us take some two weeks off! Truly deserved, and I needed it, I will surely utilize it and fully will. I cant wait for the holiday to start, I already switched to this mood two weeks ago...but again, being with my family is even more important...only sad thing is that I will be going one direction while he will be going another, but I know one day we will all be going the same direction to celebrate as a family!I have learnt in the past few months that you may not get all the time you need to rest but you can always make time to do stuff, even if its for a few minutes.....or seconds...and for these I thank God for giving me friends who understand me and at all times have been supportive. I will not mention my family since they have had to put up with much more than I have ever imagine during the whole of this year from changing circumcision dates for my son to changing dates of his grown up bash!

Now onto that, I am a totally proud mother, on the 24th of December, 2014, my son will be a totally grown man, the initiation ceremony will have been completed with his manhood bash that am sure he cant wait to have. He has been calling almost all the time to ask when I will be home so that I he can shave his hair. Tradition has it that he may not shave his hair until he is done with the ceremony....well am not sure why...and the more the reason I will continue with this practice! I understand its to shave away his childhood and welcome him to his manhood...well that is what I have been told and it will stick that way.Although sometimes I still question it! Anyway, I cant wait for him to be out, to finally stand on his two feet. I have seen him grow, when he could just fit right on my laps to the time when he knew he was being moved beds and could wake up immediately I put him in his court, to his first walk and continuous running, didn't he run! He always had a permanent mark on his forehead and we called it 'The torch' since it was right on his forehead. It only healed after he learnt not to run! Sometimes I feel, he used to run since when he was younger he could be told to sit in one location to avoid getting dirty! Why did we even give him that theory in the first place? When he learnt to walk he quickly ran, and when ran he ran and he loved it so much when we could chase after him! It was so hectic that I had to device a method of feeding him, by placing him somewhere where he could not run, otherwise we could all run trying to feed him! My son, he is all grown up now, he can do so much for himself. I feel proud that he can actually go to school on his own! Next year he sits his Primary school certificate exams...soon he will do his O Levels...and then graduate college! I cant wait for all the above to happen. 13 years feels like yesterday since I can still feel him laying on my laps, while I breast fed him! A tiny tot! Now a big boy...no a man!

The tough times, I have had for this year, the fun times, cry baby moments and the growth experienced, I thank God for it! For the family, friends, close friends, my partner in crime, you know yourself, and relatives, I thank God for all of you. Being the people in my circle is not one of the easiest thing but you have helped me through out the year and I celebrate all of you!

To all the single parents out there, single parenting is tough, when you make choices you stick by them and sticking by them is one of the toughest thing to do! It takes strength to make these, but with God all is possible! Keep up the faith.

Holidays, holidays, happy holidays...keeping slim and fit for 2015! Happy holidays people!